and.. Christmas Is Ruined Again

Last year Steve's mom randomly decided that she wanted to come to Canada last minute while we were in the US visiting my sister for Christmas. So we had to leave early to basically open the fucking door for her because she didn't bother to give us a heads up.

THIS YEAR! We planned on going SINCE! They didn't let me go see my sister in July but then Steve's mom decides basically that her car broke down so that means that Steve has to pay for it, not her. So whatever he's getting from his paycheck (right before we were supposed to leave) is going into HER bank account ... yeah.. so now he's like "I can't afford to go now" and I'm like FUCK! WTF! because his dad gives his mom money and I'm very aware of how much money she has in her bank account but she's not willing to touch it so its kind of like wtf. She doesn't want us to visit for like 2 days wtf, you live with us! WE SEE YOU EVERY FUCKING DAY!

So now I have tons of packages sitting at Ashley's house waiting to be picked up and some I've been waiting for like almost a fucking month! >.< and I really want to get them and I really don't want to ask them to bring it up (I'm not going to, I really want to fucking go visit them) and its probably not going to be until the end of my fucking semester to go visit!

Grarrgh! Seriously year after year and this is the second time they did this to me, even if it isn't intentional but I think its selfish to ask your son to pay for your car when you have lots of money.

Fuck this family!

*UPDATE* Yeah Steve called his dad and he'll be paying for his mom's car so we can actually go down and visit! Yay!

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Money and Relationships

I wish Steve was more aware of what he does and says around people instead of blaming them when I point out some of his issues.

We went out for dinner last night with my good friend and her boyfriend from college at a Chinese restaurant. We went to the bank beforehand because I told him "Its a Chinese restaurant its probably cash only, you should take out some cash" and he says to me "Why would they have cash only? Most places accept debit/credit so I'm not taking out cash" so in my head I was like this is going to be complicated later.

Generally when I go out with my friends I like to take out cash if its an Asian restaurant (for some reason most of them here accept cash only) and its better to pay in cash if its a group of people because its easier to figure out who paid for what.

Anyways, we ordered a few dishes to share amongst ourselves and when the bill came it was $60 including tip it was about $66 so I put down $20, my friend and her boyfriend put down $40 and Steve just sat there and was like "do they accept debit/credit?" I was like "seriously? this is why you take out cash" and then he asks "Does this place accept American dollars?" >.< !!!!!!!!!!! yes because most family run restaurants accept foreign currency ...

So my friend and her boyfriend ended up having to pay the difference because I only took out $20 and put down all the change I could and we all left awkwardly. I did scold him in the car on the way home he said he'll pay the whole thing next time but I doubt he will and then he got SUPER defensive and said "if she would just check her phone when you asked if it was cash only we wouldn't have this problem!!" even so I wish he would just take responsibility or even thank them for the meal but that wasn't the only issue.

At some point in the dinner he said "I can hit my girlfriend whenever I want (he doesn't) but I choose not to" and we were all like silent and awkward because he wants to be a police officer and its something you probably don't want to say out loud in a public place, even if it was a joke. When I brought this up today he said "they're just closed minded" -___-'

Financially this isn't the first time something like this has happened with the same friend. We went out for dim sum once and the bill was $50 my friend only had a $50 bill and didn't want to use her credit card. I gave my friend $20 and Steve took the $50 and paid with his credit card, the whole amount so basically he didn't pay for any of the food and she was like wtf and said that she's never seen him pay for anything.

Most of the time when we go out with his friends one of his friends pays for him because he says he's totally broke, which isn't the case. He's just saving money for stupid shit LOL. I talked to his friend about that today and he said that he knows that he has no money and one day he'll pay him back -__-' does he really think that his girlfriend who lives with him doesn't know him at all? Then he said "the person who is most financially stable should pay" -___-' !!!!!!! Ok I must be dealing with really inconsiderate people. Even if you make more money doesn't mean you should pay for people who  make less money than you... if you choose to go out you should pay for yourself, its not the responsibility of others!

Argh its just giving me a headache and I know that when Steve gets home he's going to rage and break something and he'll blame it on others instead of taking responsibility. A lot of people don't like his cocky attitude (I can't blame them)

Don't get me wrong I like that he's confident (most of the time) but when he's around certain people it just triggers his douchebag side. The problem is talking to him about certain issues because he doesn't like to talk about serious topics.

So tell me, how would you go about this issue?

Poop.

*update* Now that I think more about it I wish my friend would have handled this situation better than she did. I mean she could have said something then and there (he did ask if there was an atm but they said nothing) instead of staring at him all awkwardly or even given us a heads up on this place being cash only since we've never been to this place before. I'm not sure what I want to do but Steve is still oblivious to people's feelings and he should town down his cocky attitude when its someone sensitive. So far its ended on bad terms since neither of them want to see each other ever again :(

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Whore ~ lol

Holy crap I am super pissed off.

Steve's mom is such a fucking bitch and so is Steve. We went to the states this past weekend because Steve's mom wanted to steal ideas from popular American restaurants so she can recreate them at her own when she has one. I asked Steve if it was ok to go meet Ashley for a bit since I probably won't see her in the next few months since I have to go to school and he doesn't want to go visit her at Christmas because he wants to spend time with his stupid family and he said ok we can go.

We get up early (wanted to leave by 6:30AM) and she takes forever to get ready (obviously cause she's a prissy bitch) but we end up leaving at 7:30AM because she was taking her sweet ass time. We beat the line up because we went into the duty free to buy water (who knew that worked?) and we got to the premium outlet by 10AM. I thought to myself wow we're making pretty good time! We'll probably get to Ashley's by 11:30AM or 12PM. It took her 4 HOURS to buy two pairs of pants and a shirt, she also bought a Burberry jacket for like $600 but returned it because they have no money. Hmm priorities lol at least she has enough sense to return it.

Apparently his mom thought that I was just going to go Ashley's just to say hi and hang out for like 30 minutes and that we'd be on our way. Umm no, I told you the day before that I wanted to spend time with my sister because I probably won't see her till after Christmas. Then she says "ok we're going to go out for lunch for one hour and when we come back we have to go home" I was like WTF and Steve was no help either, obviously he'd side with his mom because he's whipped and can't start an argument with mom or else the apocalypse will happen if she doesn't get her way. So when we actually got to her place she wasn't fucking home, I figured something like that would happen, I didn't really expect her to sit around and wait for us.

So naturally I was pissed off that they both ganged up on me when I told them in advance that I wanted to spend more than one hour of my time with my sister and because I was pissed off Steve got pissed off and was like "don't feel that way" I'm like fuck off how am I supposed to feel? You're the one who told me that we could go see her and when your stupid dumbass mom decides to spend 4 hours shopping for nothing then that's your fault and you should pay the price instead of someone else.

How the fuck can a family be like this? I am at the end of the rope, I can't fucking handle this drama anymore. They're going to say I'm insane because I want to break up with him for being a selfish narcissist with a Oedipus complex (well its more like his mom is in love with him than he is in love with her) Plus he got a date for his polygraph test with the RCMP. They both just can't understand the term "sharing" the original plan was for her to steal ideas from other restaurants not go shopping at the outlet. Obviously I have no choice in the decisions that they make (which are dumb selfish ones). I still can't believe in the "you must obey anyone older than you" rule, times have changed and its time you learned that the world doesn't revolve around you because your "older" I could wrap my head around the idea if she was you know, more humble and sweet instead of being spoiled and selfish.

I just hope the day will come where their family runs out of money and she has to learn how to live by herself instead of relying on someone else. It bugs me that she wants to go to school and then open a restaurant right after, seems so random and someone else can use that seat int he class. she can't stand the fact that she'll have a manager if she works as a care aide. Hope that she cuts the umbilical cord off of Steve too which probably won't happen because she's a bitch and would just freak the fuck out if he ever had his own life without her.

He always says that when he becomes a cop he won't live with his mom but GET REAL she's going to fucking make up a sob story about how the family is poor and not making money and that he's the bread winner in the family and has to take care of his mom that is aging and that she can't work for a very long time or her body will hurt and that his dad's business is failing or some shit. His sister is piece of work too, miniature version of his mom only with education, its only a matter of time before she gets on their moms level.

I know if he'll eventually become an RCMP officer but he'll eventually fuck it up by helping his mom (or Koreans) out in situations where he shouldn't or his rage/temper will get the best of him and he'll do something stupid without thinking it through that could jeopardize his job. You know what his parents said to him once? Basically its ok to arrest everyone else except Korean people because "they are our kind" its like fuck you, you really want a police officer with parents who instill this type of thought in their kids? ummm no.

Talk about a shitty wife too, his mom blew like $5000 on the dog and she tells her daughter to not tell her husband and she doesn't tell him at all that she blew that much. Obviously he'd be upset, I would be too if my wife spent $5000 and DIDN'T TELL ME, not only that she told Steve the same thing. They keep SO MANY secrets from his dad if I were Korean I would tell him EVERYTHING. I feel bad for his dad, has to be married to a bitch wife and sends her money and she lies to him what she's spending it on.

RANT OVER.
I hope Karma super gets this family.

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It Has Begun

OK Steve's mom is starting to piss me off now lol.

How fucking dependent are you going to be when you have kids AND a husband!?

Ok so... Steve's mom had like a job for two weeks at a sushi restaurant as a waitress and then she quit because she said it was "too overwhelming" I get that it could be for someone who hasn't worked in like 30 years but wtf you know your financial situation and she's got nothing else going on here! Does she really think that one day of not cleaning the house will result in the apocalypse? She only worked 4 hour shifts 3 times a week!

She also expects to be a care aid which is like 100x harder than being a waitress! wtf! I have a feeling that she's going to go to school, get her certificate or whatever and then quit because it'll be too stressful for her -__-'

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We went to the car dealership today because she's been pissing us off the past few weeks because she wanted Steve to find her a new car but HOLY CRAP she is so fucking picky! We found so many good options but she either didn't like the color or the mats in the car or some other stupid cosmetic reason. We test drove a 2010 Toyota Corolla S yesterday that was like BRAND NEW it looked so good, had low kilometers and like a small accident that only damaged the bumper (so nothing major) and it was priced at $14,800 (at the Mazda dealership in North Vancouver) so after tax and documentation fees and all that it was close to $17,000. The smart cookie that she is she offered $15,000 with tax included and everything. Even I knew that the manager wouldn't shave off like $2000 off of that like REALLY, they can easily sell that vehicle for the asking price! WTF

Today we went to the Toyota dealership because she wanted to take a look at some of the used cars there. Ok so she refused to buy mazda 2, mazda 3, honda civic because she didn't want to pay a lot for car maintenance and fuel and then what does she get? a fucking 2002 Audi A4.

My old manager's mom had one and something happened to the engine (the belt or something?) and then it messed up the whole engine so it was either buy a new car or get a new engine that was worth a new car, you tell me what he chose. Yet his mom was smart enough to get one, not only that maintenance on this car I expect will be expensive as well as gas.

Anyways after they buy the car she doesn't even fucking drive it! She makes Steve do it! like WTF!

Are you not getting a car for yourself? Why make your son do it? What's the point in having two vehicles if you aren't going to drive it? Are you that dependent on someone to do it for you?! Or are you just lazy?

I'm so frustrated! Such a lazy dependent woman! I blame Steve and his dad for enabling her to do all this crap!

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Here's something juicy but its a theory not fact but the puzzle pieces fit, I'll just have to wait and see how this plays out.

Steve's mom apparently told him some sob story about her getting abused by her dad right before she came here. Which may or may not have happened, I know its common in Asia especially old fashioned families like his. From what I've heard he's never raised his hand at her before but there's got to be a reason for him to do it. Even so Dr. Phil always says "a man should never raise their hand to a woman, its not a fair/equal fight"

However! If there was any reason for his dad to do it and the reason why she came here, I think, was because his mom was stealing money from his dad and secretly stashing it somewhere and he found out and then she fled the country.

So apparently his dad had full access to her bank accounts previously. Because well she didn't work and she needs money to spend right? What's the point in giving her cash all the time when he can just transfer it online straight into her bank account so she can withdraw it whenever she wants. But months before she came she changed all her passwords so he couldn't get access to them to see how much she was spending he was only allowed to deposit and she cancelled her smartphone too O_O Hmmmm!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Since she came here her sister has been secretly sending her money. I thought to myself "If I knew Ashley had kids and a husband I wouldn't want her to send me money because well her family should come first even if they were super wealthy" I'm thinking that her sister has access to his mom's bank account and that his mom has actually been secretly stealing money from their dad these past few months which would make sense because she keeps shit talking about him to Steve (to which Steve believes his mom of course since they have a better relationship) she said that "he's been acting strange" but It strikes me odd that she came here for no reason and now she's doing absolutely nothing... no work, no school just nothing! Take care of her son? pfft yeah right more like alienate and dictate >.<

Not only that Steve is so stupid for enabling her he thinks she's going to just work and live on her own and be independent? He needs to get real.

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