Our Mom

I don’t think I’ve ever written a whole post about my mom. I’ve mentioned her in the past but I haven’t dedicated a full post on her.

Many of my close friends know the hatred I have for her and my dad. People that meet them for the first time always think “oh your mom is so nice, I have no idea what you are talking about” or “you’re wrong your parents are such nice people” and it always pisses me off. I mean you meet them what a few times? And you think that you already know the person? Come on seriously, you are talking to their children, people who have lived with them for a majority of their lives and people aren’t going to tell you straight up that they’re crazy.

Think of it this way a pervert isn’t going to fucking tell you they want to touch your goodies right? You shouldn’t expect a crazy person to do the same. My mom likes to manipulate people, why? Sympathy. I have no idea why she wants sympathy, I guess so she can do whatever she wants and they’ll be like “oh just let her do whatever she feels like, she’s had a hard life” -___- really? no fuck off Lol.

The other night I had some wine with Steve and his mom and she says to me “Your parents told me about when she was in a car accident and that she was in a coma for three years” WTF SERIOUSLY. That’s a big fucking lie, my mom was in a car accident that’s it, no injuries sustained only the car was damaged, that’s it. Why the hell do they have to tell people this bullshit? I would’ve told Steve that my mom had been in a coma and that would explain her craziness and he knows that, or at least I hope he does. I seriously can’t believe that Steve’s mom would believe all of her fucking lies, she’s so dumb.

I think Ashley’s mother in law used to think she was normal, at least when they first met but that quickly changed after she took her for a visit at the doctors office. I think they had planned to go have lunch or a coffee together but my mom had to go to the optometrist first.

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Ok before I go on I have to explain. My mom likes to pretend to be super retarded when she goes to the doctor. I always knew this, I think Ashley’s always known this but not other people. She will pretend not to know a word of English and pretend that we (her daughters) are her care aides, wtf. Plus for some reason she has a cane and she uses it only at the doctors, she thinks that if she has enough disabilities then the government will give her more money that she can use at the casino instead of medicine -___-' She also does this thing with her hands where she pretends she can’t open them. The doctor told us he did a x-ray and had specialists look at her hand and found nothing wrong and they couldn’t figure out why her hand couldn’t open -___-‘ wtf.

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At the end of her appointment she walked out and the office assistant says to my mom “you have to pay the bill” she looks at Ashley’s mother in law and says “me no speak English” like she wanted her to pay and she says “lily, you know English perfectly fine, pay the bill” and she responds “me no know” and starts drooling… and every second that they are there she gets more and more messed up! WTF! Now it seems they only talk when she needs a dog sitter and asks my mom to take care of him.

My parents seem to think that Ashley’s husband and his mom owe them a huge favor because she’s getting re-married and they met because of them. -____-' they’re probably going to expect money.

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Let’s begin with our childhood LOL. I swear I need my own Dr. Phil episode. Ahh memories.

I am utterly surprised that we were never taken away by the government when we were kids. I don’t know how many times I thought about running away but I always knew I wouldn’t get really far until I got caught.

Our mom used to like locking us outside when we did bad things

and not let us in until night time

(Ashley's the older one and I'm the baby... still have a big forehead... lol)

At school I never ate anything, the teachers would have to bring Ashley down from her class during lunch to watch me eat because I refused to eat. Why? Our mom would pack our lunch and what was in it usually was two pieces of bread with butter in it… or moldy sandwiches, yum. I remember confiding into my grade 1 & 2 teacher about how my parents would hit usand they just stuck me with a counselor who didn’t do shit. The good days were when our dad would cook us food, I guess he is less evil than our mom lol.

There were a few times when our mom was supposed to pick us up from school but totally forgot and after a few hours of waiting we just ended up walking home, who lets their 8 year old daughters walk home from school?

In Kindergarten I cut my stomach open on a sharp corner of a desk we had in our bedroom because I was trying to climb it lol. Instead of taking me to get stitches or proper bandages, my mom finds some napkins and tape -___-‘ wtf. When I went to school the next day I kept holding my stomach because it hurt and I didn’t want it to fall out. Eventually there came a time when they took us to the gym to let us run around and they noticed that I kept holding onto my stomach and they asked me to move my hand and this huge bloody taped up napkin fell out of my dress LOL. They freaked out but I guess they thought I did it at school, they went to put proper bandages on me, I still have a scar.

My favorite story of our childhood was when our mom got arrested at Wal-mart. She took me and Ashley “shopping” after school one night and Ashley had her backpack. We went into Wal-mart and my mom put on a pair of jeans over her pants and told us to look out and stuffed a whole bunch of shirts/sweaters into Ashley’s backpack. We walked out of the store and there was a store not that far away and my mom was like “oh, look at these sweaters” Ashley took one out to compare and two people approached us and asked her to go with them. I kept telling my mom to just give back the stuff. Eventually they took us to some interrogation room in the Wal-Mart and called the cops.

The cops came, they asked my mom some questions and then eventually they took us to the police station. I was like 8? or younger and I was so embarrassed walking out of that store with the cops and then getting into the back of their car. Then they took us to go talk to our dad which probably was really embarrassing for him too because he was working and his co-workers were probably like wtf is happening?

Then we went to the station and I think they took a photo but I remember seeing them fingerprint her. Then they let us go home. That night I remember my mom sitting on my bed when we were trying to go to sleep and she said “your mom is going to go to jail and its Ashley’s fault because she took the sweater out of the bag and they saw” and I was like what the hell? when you think about it its like WTF YOU BLAMED YOUR LITTLE CHILD ON THE ACTIONS THAT YOU DID? REALLY?! WHAT GOOD PARENTING SKILLS!

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Now our relationship with our mom is basically non-existent, I personally don’t care. I only care when she tries to manipulate Steve or my friends. I don’t bring anyone over anymore. I have one friend that’s a pretty big guy and whenever he used to come over my mom would tell me to make him move furniture around for her and I’m like fuck off, he’s not here to help you move shit, you can pay him and do it or fucking hire someone leave my fucking friends alone. Then she’ll just try to move the crap herself and then start screaming “HELP ME, OH MY GOD SO HEAVY! OW OW OW OW” and my friend knows she’s being like this on purpose so he’ll end up doing it because she’s a fucking bitch and won’t stop screaming.

Ashley doesn’t talk to our parents anymore, she’s lucky she can do that. If I were out of school and financially stable I would leave right now and never look back.

She’s still verbally abusive. She always tells people how I’m really dumb, how I’m ugly and how I’m useless and says that “____ kid is so smart and talented, you don’t know how to do anything” So I basically hate all of her friends because they always talk down to me so I have no fucking respect for them.

People always say there’s two sides to every story but I don’t really think there is an excuse for anyone to treat their children like this. If you can't love them or support them THEN DON'T HAVE THEM!

I told Steve if we got married my parents aren’t aloud to come to our wedding and he says he’s ok with it but I have a feeling his mom will object and I’ll tell him that either my mom goes and I don’t or I go and she doesn’t lol, I think it’s a pretty fair trade.

I wrote something on Facebook like last year about how my mom stole money off my table by breaking into my room and my aunt called to yell at her and what my mom did was freak out and smash dishes -___-' so I am going to assume the same would happen if anyone in my family read my blog.

There are tons of other stories, which I may or may not post we will see.

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The Self Righteous Parent

Everyone deals with people like this
There's no reasoning with that person because they just either don't believe you or they have such strong beliefs of their own that their perception of the situation is so warped that their way of thinking is not straight on and doesn't make sense

Steve's mom has been here since the 26th of December (as I've mentioned before) and she's caused so many fucking problems already. I don't know if she has a mental issue or she's just fucking inconsiderate (probably both) but something is definitely not right there.

For two days now she's been freaking out at him for failing his cbsa exam (border services) and not getting a job (this was like a year ago) and he is still going to school. She keeps ridiculing him for not staying in university and said to him if he doesn't get the job he's going for in February then he has to quit school in Canada and live in Korea, wtf.

"Everyone else has kids who have finished university and are looking for jobs what are you doing? wasting your time with your friends"

Its not like he isn't trying to get a job I mean he's a student at JIBC, he's also applying for jobs and works part-time. Its not that he's fucking lazy I think he is entitled a few days off, especially on his birthday (it was his birthday on new years day).

I have to say, if you don't get a job it doesn't mean you have to move halfway across the world to study english (he's fucking fluent lol) and compared to Canada, Korea is probably not the best place to study english, probably engrish.

Plus you don't move someone halfway across the world because they didn't get a job, maybe if they were addicted to drugs and you want them to go to rehab and not have access to the environment they were in wtf lol.

"I'm your parent and you should do what I say"

Every time a friend of mine tells me that their parent has said this I get angry. Just because you are a parent doesn't mean you are a good one. Anybody can be a parent (for example a 12 year old girl that got accidentally pregnant) but not everyone is a good parent.

To me Steve's mom has the maturity of a 15 year old girl, and if she doesn't get what she wants she calls daddy (aka Steve's dad lol) She was never ready to have kids and still isn't.

I have to be honest, Steve isn't the best human in the world lol, his parents have warped his mind a little bit but he is slowly adapting to the culture here but I know some things in his mind will never change or will slowly change. If you don't adapt to the world then you will be the outcast

"I'm your parent so you have to give me money and I have to live with you when I am old"

I'm serious about this: If your parent ever tells you that you owe them something (money, making you let them live with you) then they are pieces of shit. I'm fucking serious, you don't owe them ANYTHING. If your parent only had you to take care of them when they're older what does that say? basically they had you for their own selfish needs. Its not a right/obligation to have kids, just because you can it doesn't always mean you should.

Somebody told me: In Korea, before you get married you have to live with your husbands parents for a month or two so their mom can teach you how to be a good housewife. Because the man has to take care of the family by providing the money.

So I blame his mom for his faults LOL

I told Steve if his mom continues to say these things then I'm going to have to ask her to leave and not come back to the house and if she refuses then I'll call the cops. At this point and time Steve is ok with that.

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It's already a shit show!!!

One of my parents oldest friends passed away and their funeral was yesterday and SHE WAS THE NICEST LADY EVER! seriously! she was the nicest Vietnamese lady I've ever met and such horrible things have happened to her. My mom always treated her like crap, for some reason the nice lady and one of my mom's shitty friends (we called her goo-ma) were in some sort of feud I have no idea what it was about but I'm betting you that goo-ma is happy that she passed away. My mom and goo-ma would always prank phone call her and say horrible things to her and then hang up and then laugh about it, WTF. It just goes to show evil never dies. I don't know how many times I've wished death upon my mom or goo-ma for being such horrible human beings.

Anyways my cousin emailed me about the funeral and I went to tell my mom what time it was and where it was and my parents just looked at me like oh its not worth it. My dad kept shaking his head and kept saying no and I was like seriously? You've known this lady for more than 40 years, she hooked you guys up and you treat her like this? WTF.

She used to pick up me and my sister at school when my mom would forget to pick us up and she would make us super delicious pho :( she also gave me nice boots once and some clothes. I'm just appalled about how my parents treated her.

The main reason why my parents didn't want to go is because they knew they weren't going to get any money, the reason why my mom went to Colorado is because she knew she would get money from some relatives but she can't take the time to drive 20 minutes to her funeral WTF. Plus my mom was super mad at her daughter for not calling her personally and telling her about the funeral (SHE HAS OTHER PROBLEMS TO DEAL WITH THAN CALLING YOU!) stupid bitch seriously.

My parents are just horrible horrible people.

Just wait till my parents pass away they won't get a funeral just a cremation and I'll probably leave them somewhere and forget about them because they're not worth my time even after death.

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Steve's mom is here but she didn't piss me off yet... she's freaking out at Steve for playing video games and not finishing university because he wants to be a police officer so he chose to go to a criminal justice school to learn about criminology and law enforcement. She's never wanted him to be a cop but to be a robot in an office. He finally got a police interview somewhere and she said to him "if you don't get that job then you have to quit school in Canada and move back to Korea and study there" WHAT AN EXCELLENT PARENT!! SUPPORTING THEIR CHILD'S DREAMS!

WHAT THE FUCK AH?

Seriously what parent does that? Steve doesn't want to work in an office, I understand that Korea's a homogenous society and most people work in an office but she should understand what her son wants and what he doesn't want, instead of coercing him into doing things he doesn't want to do. He's also an adult capable of making his own decisions so he doesn't really need the support of his mom well maybe financially but his mom doesn't work anyways. She'll never see him as an adult, she always says he's too young even though he's 23 and she got married when she was 24 wtf lol.

I don't understand why she would want a Canadian citizenship (besides pension $$$) if she wants her whole family to live in Korea and keep the Canadian citizenship wtf. Can someone please explain this to me? because my mind is just blown from this situation. Steve says he doesn't want to live in Korea at all and if she forced him to he would just refuse but knowing him he would go and tell me later "You don't understand its Korean culture, I have to listen to my parents" he has no balls lol I know he'll go if his parents tell him.

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