The Self Righteous Parent

Everyone deals with people like this
There's no reasoning with that person because they just either don't believe you or they have such strong beliefs of their own that their perception of the situation is so warped that their way of thinking is not straight on and doesn't make sense

Steve's mom has been here since the 26th of December (as I've mentioned before) and she's caused so many fucking problems already. I don't know if she has a mental issue or she's just fucking inconsiderate (probably both) but something is definitely not right there.

For two days now she's been freaking out at him for failing his cbsa exam (border services) and not getting a job (this was like a year ago) and he is still going to school. She keeps ridiculing him for not staying in university and said to him if he doesn't get the job he's going for in February then he has to quit school in Canada and live in Korea, wtf.

"Everyone else has kids who have finished university and are looking for jobs what are you doing? wasting your time with your friends"

Its not like he isn't trying to get a job I mean he's a student at JIBC, he's also applying for jobs and works part-time. Its not that he's fucking lazy I think he is entitled a few days off, especially on his birthday (it was his birthday on new years day).

I have to say, if you don't get a job it doesn't mean you have to move halfway across the world to study english (he's fucking fluent lol) and compared to Canada, Korea is probably not the best place to study english, probably engrish.

Plus you don't move someone halfway across the world because they didn't get a job, maybe if they were addicted to drugs and you want them to go to rehab and not have access to the environment they were in wtf lol.

"I'm your parent and you should do what I say"

Every time a friend of mine tells me that their parent has said this I get angry. Just because you are a parent doesn't mean you are a good one. Anybody can be a parent (for example a 12 year old girl that got accidentally pregnant) but not everyone is a good parent.

To me Steve's mom has the maturity of a 15 year old girl, and if she doesn't get what she wants she calls daddy (aka Steve's dad lol) She was never ready to have kids and still isn't.

I have to be honest, Steve isn't the best human in the world lol, his parents have warped his mind a little bit but he is slowly adapting to the culture here but I know some things in his mind will never change or will slowly change. If you don't adapt to the world then you will be the outcast

"I'm your parent so you have to give me money and I have to live with you when I am old"

I'm serious about this: If your parent ever tells you that you owe them something (money, making you let them live with you) then they are pieces of shit. I'm fucking serious, you don't owe them ANYTHING. If your parent only had you to take care of them when they're older what does that say? basically they had you for their own selfish needs. Its not a right/obligation to have kids, just because you can it doesn't always mean you should.

Somebody told me: In Korea, before you get married you have to live with your husbands parents for a month or two so their mom can teach you how to be a good housewife. Because the man has to take care of the family by providing the money.

So I blame his mom for his faults LOL

I told Steve if his mom continues to say these things then I'm going to have to ask her to leave and not come back to the house and if she refuses then I'll call the cops. At this point and time Steve is ok with that.

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It's already a shit show!!!

One of my parents oldest friends passed away and their funeral was yesterday and SHE WAS THE NICEST LADY EVER! seriously! she was the nicest Vietnamese lady I've ever met and such horrible things have happened to her. My mom always treated her like crap, for some reason the nice lady and one of my mom's shitty friends (we called her goo-ma) were in some sort of feud I have no idea what it was about but I'm betting you that goo-ma is happy that she passed away. My mom and goo-ma would always prank phone call her and say horrible things to her and then hang up and then laugh about it, WTF. It just goes to show evil never dies. I don't know how many times I've wished death upon my mom or goo-ma for being such horrible human beings.

Anyways my cousin emailed me about the funeral and I went to tell my mom what time it was and where it was and my parents just looked at me like oh its not worth it. My dad kept shaking his head and kept saying no and I was like seriously? You've known this lady for more than 40 years, she hooked you guys up and you treat her like this? WTF.

She used to pick up me and my sister at school when my mom would forget to pick us up and she would make us super delicious pho :( she also gave me nice boots once and some clothes. I'm just appalled about how my parents treated her.

The main reason why my parents didn't want to go is because they knew they weren't going to get any money, the reason why my mom went to Colorado is because she knew she would get money from some relatives but she can't take the time to drive 20 minutes to her funeral WTF. Plus my mom was super mad at her daughter for not calling her personally and telling her about the funeral (SHE HAS OTHER PROBLEMS TO DEAL WITH THAN CALLING YOU!) stupid bitch seriously.

My parents are just horrible horrible people.

Just wait till my parents pass away they won't get a funeral just a cremation and I'll probably leave them somewhere and forget about them because they're not worth my time even after death.

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Steve's mom is here but she didn't piss me off yet... she's freaking out at Steve for playing video games and not finishing university because he wants to be a police officer so he chose to go to a criminal justice school to learn about criminology and law enforcement. She's never wanted him to be a cop but to be a robot in an office. He finally got a police interview somewhere and she said to him "if you don't get that job then you have to quit school in Canada and move back to Korea and study there" WHAT AN EXCELLENT PARENT!! SUPPORTING THEIR CHILD'S DREAMS!

WHAT THE FUCK AH?

Seriously what parent does that? Steve doesn't want to work in an office, I understand that Korea's a homogenous society and most people work in an office but she should understand what her son wants and what he doesn't want, instead of coercing him into doing things he doesn't want to do. He's also an adult capable of making his own decisions so he doesn't really need the support of his mom well maybe financially but his mom doesn't work anyways. She'll never see him as an adult, she always says he's too young even though he's 23 and she got married when she was 24 wtf lol.

I don't understand why she would want a Canadian citizenship (besides pension $$$) if she wants her whole family to live in Korea and keep the Canadian citizenship wtf. Can someone please explain this to me? because my mind is just blown from this situation. Steve says he doesn't want to live in Korea at all and if she forced him to he would just refuse but knowing him he would go and tell me later "You don't understand its Korean culture, I have to listen to my parents" he has no balls lol I know he'll go if his parents tell him.

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