Very wordy post.
BRAIN EXPLOSION!
I totally procrastinated and am studying last minute for my exam.
I've crammed in 2 chapters of biology into my head already and I have 2 more to go and I feel so confused! I should become religious and stop believing in science because its just too much :P
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Last night I was studying really hard and was getting pissed off because the house was so messy. Steve came home from school and as soon as he did he just went onto his computer to play games. He has a midterm tomorrow (mine is today) so I asked him to clean the dishes because I was studying. It took him 6.5 hours to finally get up and wash them (he was playing sudden attack and an mmorpg with his friends during that time) at 2AM he gets up and does it. He knows if he doesn't do them I will eventually but I yelled at him lol.
I really don't ask for much around the house except take out the garbage because its heavy. In the past 6 months he's washed dishes 3 times so I'm kind of like wtf get up and clean! I have a midterm worth 30% of my mark!
Its no wonder his mom wants him to move out and become more "independent" (aka live with her so he can do all the errands for her)
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It just blows my mind on how selfish some people can be. I usually buy the groceries and cook and clean and he does nothing (drive?) lol When I get overwhelmed I ask him to clean, it just takes a century for him to do it. Its no wonder because he's used to his mom and sister doing all the housework.
His mom thinks that its the other way around and that he does everything and I just hang out... wtf. I remember when she came to visit last time and she got super pissed off at me because I turned off the lights she wasn't using in various rooms and it was like 10AM and she tells him that I have rage issues and that a normal person doesn't get as angry as much as I do.
I do things for a reason, I don't purposely go piss off people for no reason unless they piss me off first. Like the light thing, its 10AM!! who needs to turn on
ALL the lights in the house when its nice and sunny out, what a waste of energy! open the curtain! she said that I had to
consult her first before turning them off. Just who's house is this? your visiting! be considerate!
Plus the whole living situation thing, His mom is making him move out because she says she wants more control in the house and that when she stays here that she has no control and that my parents boss her around (err.. my mom just asks you if you want to go swim and my dad works all day) and that she says that Steve eats really unhealthy food because we have cans of soup (we don't eat them everyday wtf, we only bought them because they are cheaper in the states) Plus she's making him move right beside her best friend's place, convenient place for her right?
She says to me "
You guys can date but marriage is not an option nor is living together
(where was this a year ago when your son moved into our house? should've said something then!),
your not Korean, you don't know Korean culture, You don't speak Korean. Marriage is about the joining of two families how are you going to do that if you don't understand Korean culture?" WTF then she bitched at me about not hanging out with his cousins when I was in Korea. Ok.. I hung out with them a few times and its my vacation too not just his. When my cousins were here Steve never hung out with mine, so fuck you!
Steve doesn't speak Cantonese and my parents don't give a shit. I grew up in Canada! I'm so freaking whitewashed! why do I have to put all the effort in to "become Korean" Shouldn't it be a mutual effort?
Seriously considering dating someone else if he doesn't do anything,
who's mom does this? you would think she would be grateful because he pays like NO RENT and SHE STAYS FOR FREE.
I know his dad is unemployed right now and that she doesn't work so wtf. Go ahead and go out and pay $950+ for rent plus utilities lol. I know its eventually going to get to the point where his dad runs out of money and tells steve to quit school and work so he can pay the rent just like last time.
They're just excuses because they want full control of the kids. They want him to have a wife that will obey his family. In their family his parents happiness comes before their children's which apparently is normal for Koreans? according to his friend.
I remember chatting with his sister a few weeks ago and their mom wanted her to get rid of Facebook because their mom's friends daughter was engaged to this guy but he broke it off because his family found out that she had a previous relationship that was posted on Facebook. WTF who cares?! and that their mom wants her to break up with her boyfriend because he studies art again wtf! who cares? they don't mind when he buys her expensive things!
At the end of the day his parents just want to look good in front of other people. Its funny because they don't tell anyone his dad is unemployed and that her son lives with his girlfriend its better to be honest than lie to your "Friends."
Korean people is this normal?!
I heard from some of his friends this is really abnormal.
comment comment because I have no idea what to do/say anymore to get through to him!
rant rant rant rant...!
I'm so gonna bomb this exam!
PRIDE!!!